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Relationship Counseling: Boyfriend is seeing many women
Dear Dr. Ellen: I have had an on again, off again relationship with a man I have had very strong feelings for. A month ago he told me he wanted to get back together (we had been apart for 3 months). But, because he had very strong feelings for me that he wasn't ready for, he asked that we take things very slowly. Slowly for him meant a list of "rules". I could only see him once every month or 6 weeks, no calling on the phone and if I wanted to ask him out that's OK but don't be upset if he didn't respond. By the way, that had to be by email.
Since then I found out that, in fact, he is seeing about 8-10 women right now, none of whom know about each other. I happened to figure it out and asked him point blank. I, by the way, am the only one who had this list of rules. Others he was seeing very regularly. I told him that I respected myself and I can't be just a number in a list of conquests. He became frustrated and said he can't understand why I am so upset about this. He told me he was going to tell me about one girl because he planned to take her to a mutual meeting place while she was visiting from out of state and he wanted me to know before I ran into them. ALL OF OUR MUTUAL FRIENDS HANG OUT IN THIS PLACE!! He admitted that if it wasn't for the fact that he planned to do that, he would never have told me about her.
I have told him that I am not willing to play in any relationship this way. How can I stop myself from getting into relationships like this? I always seem to end up with men who start out hot and heavy and then decide that they can't commit. By the way, I am very religious and I date men from my religious group so we do not have sexual relationships. - Rita
Dear Rita: You are no match for a "player" like this. It is impossible to tell in the beginning because they are usually very good at what they do. Because you are a sweet, honest, trusting person you assume others are too. It's the way it should be but unfortunately it's not the case many times. That's why dating is so important. Until you date someone for a long time you really don't know them. They may appear one way and it is heartbreaking to find out that they are not really who they appear to be. When you begin seriously dating a man who won't give you his work or home number, only his cell phone, or he doesn't call and see you regularly, it's a sure bet that there is at least one other woman in his life. You have to get good at recognizing the signs earlier, walk away as fast as you can and don't look back. If you are always attracted to the same type of man, then it ought to get easier for you to say, "No Thank You" after the first date. There is a saying, "You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince." - Dr. Ellen
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