Dear Dr. Ellen: My daughter is 29 and has a 6 month little girl. Her husband just left her and she wants to move back home so she can go back to school and get her degree. I don't work, so I could certainly help her out. She's not lazy and I know she can do anything she puts her mind to. I don't think it's a problem but all my friends think it's a big mistake to let her come back and disrupt my husband and I. What's your opinion? - Patty

Dear Patty: I think that many people have lost sight of what a family unit is really all about. First of all, just knowing about your daughter's painful experience disrupts your life no matter what you decide to do. Knowing how your daughter must be suffering has to be painful to you as well. Abandoning your daughter at this time when she really needs you is unthinkable to me and obviously to you. Your daughter needs some time to sort things out. She also needs help with raising her daughter. Her idea of going back to school is a good one. Getting herself to a point where she can be independent will be good for everybody. What she needs is a shoulder to lean on and you and your husband can provide that. You will look back on this time as a very meaningful part of your life, especially if your daughter is able to get back on her own feet again and you and your husband were instrumental in helping her do so. Chances are you'll be closer than ever and what an opportunity to have your granddaughter there with both of you every day. Make sure to take some time for yourself and with your husband as well. You can work out a schedule that will benefit everyone. - Dr. Ellen