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Dear Dr. Ellen,

I wanted to wait before I wrote to you because I wanted to make sure that what happened to my marriage was no temporary fix. It's been a year since I ordered your programs and enough time has passed for me to feel confident that my impending divorce is a thing of the past. This letter is for you but it is my hope that it will also inspire every man out there who doesn't know where to turn to for help. You of course already know how effective your teachings are but someone coming to you for the first time doesn't know that they couldn't be in more capable hands.

When I first did a search to save my marriage, I knew that I needed a miracle to change my wife's mind. At first it was a harmless friendship with a coworker. She would share their conversations with me and I felt no threat. But as months went by, she talked less and less about him and became more distant to me. Then one day as a result of pushing her for an answer as to her growing distance, she finally admitted that, although she loved me and would we would always be connected because of the kids, she was no longer "in love" with me and could never be again. I only heard bits and pieces after the part where she said that "she didn't love me anymore and had fallen in love with her coworker. She never intended to hurt me. It just happened. It's no one's fault. We can stay friends for the sake of the kids" and other canned responses that she must have felt would soften the blow.

I was in denial at first but then I realized the affect this would have on our two children who were 12 and 9 at the time. I couldn't just sit there and let this happen. I immediately spent every spare moment searching for anything that would reverse the course of our lives. I am guilty of getting every download that has ever been offered on the Internet. Nothing helped and our marriage seemed doomed.

Then I found you. After spending hours on your site and reading and listening to everything you had available I realized that maybe, just maybe, there would be a way to save our marriage. I wrote to you and you actually wrote back. The one thing I remember you saying was that without my wife listening to what you had to say, there would be no changes in her desire to get a divorce. But how could I get her to listen when she was in love with another man and had made her mind up to leave. I bought the programs on blind faith and gave my wife the letter you suggested. Her reaction to be honest was, "Take this program and shove it where the sun don't shine." Does that give you a clue to what I had to work with? I put her program away and began listening to mine. As I listened I understood why my wife was no longer in love with me. I knew I couldn't change the past, but I sure could control the future. I followed your instructions to the T. I got absolutely no response and then 3 months later, my wife said that she was having 2nd thoughts about getting the divorce. The kids hated the new man in her life and he was having problems with his own teenage children (who couldn't stand my kids). I guess the life with me wasn't looking so bad after all. She agreed to listen to your program and the rest, as they say, is history!

You are so right when you say that pain is what causes us to grow. I would not be the husband and father I am today if it weren't for your wisdom and remarkable ability to deliver the information we need in such an easy and entertaining way. There were times I sat in the parking lot and came late to the office because I didn't want to stop listening.

I can never thank you enough for showing me what I needed to do to get my wife back and keep our family in tact. I hope you never stop doing what you do because I know there are many clueless men like me who need you.

Your fan forever,

Rob Wolf

Lawrence, New York

Dear Dr. Ellen,

I am certain this is just one of many letters you receive every day, however I felt compelled to write to you. In fact this letter is long over due.

A few years ago I ordered your tape series from an infomercial at 2:30 in the morning. (Is that cliche or what?) Yet I assure you this story is true. I knew my marriage was crumbling. My husband was shutting down and refused to talk to me about his pain. Though he had not yet told me he wanted a divorce, I knew it was coming and ordered these tapes because, frankly, I liked what you said. I had 15 years into this marriage and I wasn't about to give up yet. I felt I had nothing to lose and at the very least they would help me get my own life in order. I had them sent to my mother's home and had already started listening to them as I walked every day. when he finally confessed that he did want a divorce. (Not even a trial separation) His plan was to stay in the home for a few months until he could get everything in order. Though I made it very clear that this not at all what I wanted, we agreed to live amicably and not tell our 5 year old until it was absolutely necessary. The bottom line is, I listened and listened and listened again to your tapes everyday, as I walked. If I was frustrated, I listened, angry I'd pull out a tape, crying at my wits end, I listened again. Eventually everything you said made sense. I put myself pity aside and started to look at my own behavior, making small improvements every day. I kept a positive affirmation journal. I prayed. And I followed all your advice I could, with the exception of the romantic parts. (We weren't there yet) Most of all you gave me the confidence to believe in my own strength and power: that I would not be a victim. To make a long story short...it worked.

Mid way through this I told my husband what I was doing, though he still said he wanted the divorce I could slowly see him beginning to open up. He would ask me out to breakfast, wait for me for dinner. He would come home earlier everyday. One day he even told me how hard I was making this...I told him "that's my job!"

Most importantly I started to believe...believe that it was going to work. The compliments I started to give him, the attitude changes I made, the sweetness that he fell in love with, made him fall in love with me all over again. Within four months, in fact the night before Halloween, he told me he was staying forever. He said that he loved me and that he wasn't going anywhere. (I still cry when I think of that day). I can tell you that these tapes saved a marriage, my sanity and us from having to tell a five year old that the Daddy she adored was leaving. We are eternally grateful!!!!! I can't tell you there haven't been bumps along the way, but I can tell you that when they happen , I go back to the basics, you tapes and books and put my relationship back on track. One year after this episode we would find out our daughter was molested. There were police interviews, court appearances and excruciating stress during that time. We feel that God was talking to us when we put this marriage back on track, that somehow the tools we received from listening to you kept my husband Ed and I focused on our daughter, together as a strong unified couple, at such a crucial time. If this had occurred before we ever listened to your tapes we would surely not have been able to stand strong and united, as we were during that time. Our daughter, thankfully, is doing great. You were a Godsend.

We eventually took advantage of the sex and romantic advice and things are better than when we were dating. I have since passed these tapes around to all of my friends, (sorry) and I know they have saved at least 1 other marriage and helped two or three other relationships.

Thank you again,

Pamela Deputy

Bensalem, PA

Dear Dr. Ellen,

I was looking for your phone number and couldn't find it and decided to try the web. I am so excited you are here. I have a testimony that I wanted you to know about and didn't know where else to put it. I didn't see a section for testimonials, but I sure would be willing to be one for your product.

My name is Denise Kennedy and I have been married 8 years thanks to your tape series. We were married on Oct. 16, 1991 and by 1994 we were ready to get a divorce. We had been separated for a year when I was watching TV late one night. I was living in Seattle and my husband Ken was living in our home in California with another women, and he had asked me for a divorce and had asked the other woman to marry him.

I am a Christian and I felt the Lord telling me to do NOTHING toward a divorce, so I didn't. While I was flipping through the channels, I heard a woman say, "If you are planning to get a divorce, please listen to this program," so I did. As I watched the program I heard the Lord say to me, order these tapes and send them to Ken.

Well, I was sure that it could not be GOD. I mean, he was living with another woman, had asked her to marry him, and I was supposed to spend my money on tapes for him, not a chance. Well, as I kept listening to the program, I heard God louder and louder, ORDER THE TAPES AND SEND THEM TO KEN. Well, I wrestled with God for 2 hours. It's not fair, why should I, he'll just use them for THEIR relationship....

I did order them and sent the men's program to him. I didn't hear from him for 4 months. Then one day, I called to tell him I was moving to Texas. I had not heard anything about a divorce. We had dinner in Jan. of 1996 and reconciled in Feb. the next month. He told me that your tapes were the turning point for him realizing that maybe I was not all the problem and that he became open minded enough to look at himself realistically.

I have referred dozens of friends to your tapes and even lent mine out to a friend who called to say they were getting a divorce. I said, "not until you listen to these tapes." That was two months ago and they are still together. For over 3 years now, I have wanted to send you a THANK YOU and wanted to offer my testimony to anyone who may need some hope that things can change. Belief in God and being will to invest in your tapes are the reason we are still married.

I know personally that there are several marriages that are together because of you and your programs.

Thanks again. I would recommend them to EVERY couple I know.

Denise Kennedy

Yucaipa, CA

Dear Dr. Ellen:

I am writing to say thank you and your course for saving my marriage. I told you I would write you back if the course worked. True to form, it did. I left the brief note (that you personally suggested) and the course in her car, she then began to listen, as well as I, and before you know it she wanted to meet at the local Starbucks.

This is from a woman who claimed she couldn't stand me, hated me, wished we have never met and moved out for over a year. Now she has officially moved back home and do you believe she actually apologized and stated she was sorry for putting our family thought this.

I have implemented the strategies outlined in the course and will continue to play them occasionally to maintain focus. I could go on and on, but evidently you know the power of what you are disseminating. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

You are added to the list of very important woman in my life.

Robert F. Martin

Newark, Delaware

Dear Dr. Ellen:

I address you as a personal friend, as I feel you are one. You, along with a little help from my husband and myself, saved our marriage!! :)

About 2 years ago, I was packing my bags, ready to leave my marriage and my husband behind - taking our 4 children with me. I was, literally, packing a box filled with sweaters, when I decided to take a break. I sat down on the couch and started flipping through the channels, when your infomercial came on. In that very second, you were saying something along the lines of - "are you headed to see a lawyer" and I knew that I must sit and listen.

My husband and I have run the gamut of marital discord and we were at the end of the end. We had, half-heartedly, attempted counseling and therapy, but nothing would seem to help us find our way in such an already difficult relationship. I immediately dialed the 800 number and couldn't have cared less about the cost at that moment - I just knew that this would be my final attempt at saving our marriage. My husband came home that afternoon and I just layed it out there and explained that I had ordered these tapes and that we would both have to be willing to give this 100% in hopes of finding that marital bliss that had for so long escaped us. Thankfully, he was willing to do whatever it took at that moment to help us find our way home.

The tapes arrived a few days later and within the first few days of listening to tape #1, you would not have been able to recognize us as the same couple from just days before. The transformation was almost immediate and so incredibly gratifying. Don't get me wrong - there's no magical potion, just some amazing guidance on your part and hard work on ours - but we are happier in these past 2 years than we have been in the past 15 years of marriage.

We do find, about once a year, that we need to pull them out and run through them again. It's very easy to get yourself back into a rut, but just a listen here or there of the tapes and we're right back on track. I have, with great zealous, recommended your program to everyone I happen to talk with about relationships etc. Thank-you so much for the opportunity to let you know just how much your program has meant to my life - not just with my husband, but in every aspect.

I could go on and on, but hopefully you get an idea of what this program has done for us. I am a great fan of yours and am eternally thankful to you and your ability to guide with such an expert hand.

Sincerely,

Dena Kerr

Cheaspeake, VA

Dear Dr. Ellen,

I want to thank you so much for changing my life. I am writing you at a difficult time in my life. My husband who was only 36 passed away this past December. I take with me the fact that I have no guilt or regret from our life together, thanks to you.

I met my husband in January 1999. We literally fell in love and he moved in that night. It was amazing and very scary. I would have done any thing in this world for him and he for me. About 3 months into our relationship he had an injury to his back and turns out that he would never get better. I loved him so much and chose to stay with him forever. We married in January 2001. He was in so much pain and I worked 80 hours a week just to make ends meet. We started arguing a lot over circumstances beyond our control and they were tearing us apart. Our 1st anniversary was a disaster. I was furious and knew that I would never be there in 5 years because I just couldn't take it any more. I turned on the TV and your infomercial was on and I had never even heard of you. I ordered the tapes - I knew I had to try something. When the tapes arrived I sat down and talked calmly with my husband. We both agreed to listen to them because we really loved each other and were not willing to walk away. By Valentine's Day our relationship changed so much. We could not believe that it really worked. After listening to the tapes and doing the workbook, we could not think of any of our friends who could not benefit from this program. Everyone can and should use it. By Easter everyone was always asking how we were able to be in so much love. We had no idea that others noticed also. We had the marriage that all of our friends pretended to have.

Dr. Ellen, he was my life. I never thought that forever would only be less than 4 short years from the time that we met. He was in so much pain and now he is free. Because of you I had the best marriage in the whole world and everyone around us seemed to know this. After he died, friends and family would come up and tell me how much he loved me. We didn't just love each other, we were madly in love and there is a big difference. Thank you for giving us the tools and the skills to have a wonderful marriage. Life is short and you never know when it is going to end. But I have no regrets and there was NOTHING left unsaid.

You may use this testimony if you would like. I have recommended you to all of my friends. In fact I haven't had the tapes since we used them. It has saved 3 other friends from divorce.

Sincerely,

Marly Driskell

Houston, TX

Dear Dr. Ellen,

This note is long overdue, by probably 8 years. Today I ordered our second set of, your "Light His Fire" and "Light Her Fire" programs on CD. My husband ordered our first set in January 1995 when he saw you on T.V. promoting your product. He had never ordered anything from T.V. but was desperate enough that day to do it. You see in December 1994 I had walked out on him and our 2 daughters after 11 years of marriage. I had fallen in love (or so I thought) with another man. I had all but given up on our marriage but even with the deepest hurt of an affair I thank God he hadn't. I didn't really care one way or another if he ordered the tapes but when they arrived I decided to listen to them. As I began to listen I began to think - what was it that had attracted me to him in the beginning, what caused me to look elsewhere. Your talk on virtues and faults really hit home, I realized that I no longer tried to see his virtues (and he has many) but rather I concentrated on his faults.

We were in counseling at this point and honestly it wasn't going well at all. But when we received your tapes and both began listening and doing according to your teachings things happened quickly. Our counselor was amazed with our interaction, we told him about the tapes and that was our last session with him, no more were required. We have learned so much from your teachings, you don't just teach but give step by step instruction on how to do what you teach. Without a doubt your teachings saved our marriage. I can now say I love my husband more than I could ever imagine. We know that love is a decision and true love comes from a commitment to each other, not a feeling!

Thank you so much, may God bless you as you continue to touch and change lives through your teachings.

Perry and Geri Thorne

Cambridge, Ontario

Dear Dr.Ellen,

The holiday season is upon us and I just wanted to share another success story with you. I am 52 years old and a bit overweight. Last year I found my husband had cheated on me again. This time I threw him out and immediately filed for a divorce. I also went on the Internet and purchased your CD"s. You gave me hope that there was someone out there that would love me as I deserve to be loved. Well, there was someone that I had been friends with; one of my ex's best friends. We had always enjoyed each others company. He's 41, slim, extremely handsome, divorced with two beautiful girls. I listened to your CD's and followed every step on every CD. I knew he was dating two women and didn't want to be involved, but you encouraged me. I started asking him to go to concerts, dinner, etc. and began to praise him on the things that I admired most about him. Before long he was actually dating me and the other women went away! He would tell me things like, "I understood him like no other woman has ever before and I knew him like a book." I did confess to him I had your program and he listened to them with me. You actually made him cry when he heard a few of your explanations. He now knows why I understand and respect him so much. I am happy to say on Christmas Day we will be celebrating our 6 month wedding anniversary. Our marriage is full of love and understanding and it's because you opened up both of our eyes on communication and respect for each other. I never dreamed I could be so happy. If I mention the age difference or my weight problem, he's quick to say he loves me so much because I am the only person that ever accepted him 100% for the person he is and I don't try to change him in any way. The girls accepted us because I was already friends with them. Last year I didn't even put up a Christmas tree because I was so lonely and depressed. Today, there's a beautiful tree in the living room that we decorated as a family. My advice to anyone who has not purchased your programs or who may have them and not really listened to them and followed your advice, is to get off their booty and do it now. Your life can and will change. Thanks again Dr. Ellen. You will always have a special place in our hearts.

Judy Robinson

Rio Rancho, New Mexico.

Dear Ellen,

I saw your advertisement in the middle of the night on TV for Light His Fire cassettes. Your clips from your seminars were very compelling and I ordered the tapes even thought I did not have much money at the time. What they taught me was something I don't see in any other teaching materials. I felt that your advice elaborated on things the Bible tells us to be with each other but doesn't give specific examples like you do. Your advice tells us how to make the other person feel good about themselves. I see all types of people married to each other and know you are right, that it isn't necessarily your appearance that stops you from having a great relationship. I followed the advice on your tapes and still do. I have now been happily married for 11 years and recommend your materials to anyone who is interested. In fact, I just recommended your tapes on Light Her Fire to a fellow here at work. Actually the Holy Spirit prompted me to speak to him, quite impromptu, so I did. He said that he was using e-harmony actively trying to find someone compatible. He was very excited to get my recommendation. So you see God likes your advice too and I also believe that He prompted me to originally purchase your tapes. God Bless you Ellen for your work on this subject. I enjoy reading all materials on relationship, but I consider your work the best.

Marla Struyk

Arlington, Virginia

Dear Dr. Ellen:

I called your 800 number last Friday and asked if there was a money-back guarantee on your program, in case it didn't work. I was very reluctant to buy it, because I had gone to marriage counseling (12 sessions) with my husband of 22 years, and that didn't work at all. The person who answered the phone was very helpful, and what he said convinced me to buy your program. What did I have to lose? My husband had already left the night before, and was going to be gone a week, because he and I needed to clear our minds after all that fighting. I got your program on Monday and listened to your 1st lesson twice. It took practice, but I memorized what to tell him. After I told him, he didn't say anything, but then I hugged him. He hugged me back but barely touched me. On Tuesday, I applied the 2nd lesson. Yesterday, he was home early and was cleaning the bathrooms (he has not done that in a long time). I thanked him profusely, hugged him and told him what a great job he'd done. He hugged me back and held on for a long time.

My husband is a very good person, and I know I was pushing him away with all my negativity, but my new goal is to attract him back to me, to the girl he fell in love with 27 years ago (I was 16 and he was 17 when we started dating).

I still have ways to go, and I will definitely listen to the rest of your lessons. But I wanted to thank you. You are not only saving my marriage, but my life. I already feel different. I have been catching myself replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, not only with him but with everyone around me, and I haven't felt this good since I was born. Thanks again, and I will definitely talk about this program to everyone I know.

Sandra Soriano

Aliso Viejo, California

I am also not one to email people that I don't know on a personal basis. But then I thought. . .you have certainly been a name that has been in our household for at least five years. My marriage was pretty much over. I had a serious drinking problem and was generally a miserable person. One night, my husband was flipping through the channels and saw you on TV. He hates those shows but something stopped him and he called me in to listen. We ordered those tapes and it began the process of where we are today. We are very happily married and I am a recovering alcoholic with 4-1/2 years of sobriety under my belt. I have two girls, now ages 3 and 7, and I now am an assistant Sunday School teacher for adults my age and my husband regularly attends the church we go to. He even comes to my classes! I give God the glory for all of this but He used you to begin this wonderful change in us. We had many problems to overcome and your tapes have been a tool in them all. He even gave those tapes to a friend who was in trouble. We never got those back. So, in our time of need, he requested another set. I ordered them and he DID listen to them again. He will talk about those tapes and what he learned from them to anyone who is in need. It is amazing to me. I thank you for being a wonderful vessel for God. Thank you for helping us.

Debbie Utz

Madison, Virginia

Dear Dr. Ellen,

I would have never believed that your work would change my life and our marriage so drastically! My husband and I had fallen out of love for quite some time and were almost ready to separate. As a last resort, we purchased, "Light Her Fire" and "Light His Fire". We were both under a lot of pressure, so I decided to take a trip to visit relatives abroad hoping that it would also give us both some room to reconsider our situation.

I took Light His Fire with me and he had Light Her Fire. When I finally came back home our lives changed forever! We both had learned from you and applied your suggestions. The result is that we are back to being in love as we were when we first met but even stronger now. I cannot find the right words to explain how happy we both are.

We cannot thank you enough for saving our marriage and our love, which happened to be there but which we didn't know about until we used your method.

Thank you so very much from the bottom of my heart!

Evelina Garbislander - Markham, Ontario

Dear Dr. Ellen,

First, I would like to tell you that at this time, my wonderful husband is in the military and is currently deployed. I have always wanted to write you and tell you just how much you have done for me, not only in my marriage but in my life!!! I was bragging to my wonderful sister in-law and she went and found your website. I am now so excited to be able to write to you and thank you for everything!!!

I tell everyone that will listen that there are two entities that came into my life in the beginning of our relationship that I give all the credit to for being married today. The first of course is/was God the second was you. I would like to give you a little history on the beginning of our relationship.

When my now DH (darling husband) and I first met I was 18 years old and had a 6 month old baby. My family owns and runs several apartment complexes. When we first met I was living with my mother who was and still is the manager of one of those complexes. At that time I would have to describe myself as a young punk who was an overweight teenager with a foul attitude. My mother knew a fellow who had a younger roommate who wanted to move into this complex. My mother and her friend got the bright idea it might be nice for us if we started dating, but when my mother pointed him out, my first thought was, NO way! NOT now! NOT ever! At the time I was still into the stoners with their long, beautiful hair and wild ways. Here was a MAN that was starting to go bald with a high and tight military haircut. He didn't drink, didn't smoke, and drank tea instead of coffee. The bottom line to me was that he was the biggest square I had ever seen! Then my mother and her friend had an idea of having us come over for a movie night complete with popcorn. I said, "Okay." My now DH was very quiet but very pleasant to be around. I still wasn't interested in dating him until this quiet, still little voice that I can now only attribute to God, came into my head and asked me, "So how have the guys you've been dating working out for you?" Well, I answered, "Not so good right now. They only seem to be interested in me just to get one thing." Like I said previously, I was a bit overweight and now had a kid. Most guys wanted girls who were thin, pretty and someone they could party with. Then the voice asked "Ok and what do you have to show for it" and I answered, "Not much! Just some heartache and the responsibility of a child to raise by myself." Then it said so very quietly, almost in a whisper "Why not try something new." It was as if the lights had all been turned on and the blinders lifted from my eyes and I could see my now DH in a whole new way. We began dating and for the first time I felt what it was like to be respected. He didn't touch me until after we made it official that we where dating and even then it was only to kiss or hold hands. It was weird and currently different to be with a MAN that wasn't trying to get into bed with me at every turn! He also took the time to listen to me. After we had been dating pretty seriously for 3 months I was doing everything wrong, especially trying to change him. Then one night I saw you on TV and decided to order your program. I now say thank GOD I did. As soon as I got it in the mail I started listening to it right away and the whole way though you had me laughing or crying, as well as feeling very sad because I was truly being awful to my sweet heart!!! I started changing everything right then and there from the first day I got your cassettes and the change in how he treated me was amazing! But then you already know that. What I didn't know was that, about that same time he was thinking about breaking up and for good reason. When he saw a 180 degree change in me, he decided to stick around a bit longer. I have to tell you this last part because it's obvious we are married now, but February 14th, 1997 I was just sitting on the couch like any other day. We really didn't make any plans and I didn't really care. It's like you say, "Every day can be Valentine's Day if you want it to be and if you look for it!!! When he came to my door, I answered it and went back to the couch. He proceeded to follow me and instead of sitting next to me, he knelt down in front of me. I rolled my eyes, laughed and said, "What are you doing?" He handed me an open box of those Mini Conversational Heart candies and said, "Open it and read them." I asked "What is this?" He said "just read them!" It was only about half full and I thought he was just messing around but I had learned enough from you by then to do as he said and as I took those little candies into my hand, I saw that every one of them said "Mary Me" (that's why the box was only half full.) That's all he could find, out of the15 other boxes to fill this one. Of course I jumped up and said YES!! It was the most incredible thing that I thought had ever happened to me. At the time it really was and none of it would have happened if I had not found your simple teachings on those cassettes. I do not read much and your simple assignments have forever changed my way of thinking and my way of life!!! That was 11 years ago. As of the day I am writing this we just celebrated our 10th anniversary and the only way we could be happier at this moment in time is if he wasn't half way around the world. I still miss him and always will until he comes back home!

So now I have so much to thank you and God for; God for bringing him into my life and telling me to try something new and you for giving me the tools to treat him as a man should be treated. My only problem with all of your wonderful teachings is that now all the single guys that are overseas with my DH are jealous of him. Also, every time I see a female abusing her man, I want to cry for him, then scream and yell at her!

I have found that I can almost always get anything and everything in life that I want and need, within reason, of course. It has also helped me when it has come to our/my military life here with and without my DH. My friends don't understand how I can get so much done and when things go wrong how I can handle everything so calmly. I tell them all the time to go get your cassettes/CDs and they can learn to be like that too. I don't know if they don't think they can put it into practice like I have, if they just don't like being nice to people or if they're just plain lazy. Regardless of why, I'm still the one they come too, (it's nice to be needed I guess.) I know it was I that was open minded about your teachings and it was I that chose to work the magic you teach so well but it is I that now that has to thank you from the bottom of my heart for teaching this bitter, angry, and many times vicious, punk kid teenager, what it is to truly grow up and live up to being a woman and to have true power and all the happiness I could ever ask for as a woman. I never dreamed in my wildest dreams or would I dare to dream, that I could be as happy as I am now. I am always talking about you and what you teach. My family has nicknamed me E.C. at times which stands for Ellen's Clone because I won't stop talking about you and what you have to say about everything.

I will end this letter by saying this is one little girl that got your messages loud and clear and put each and every one of them into practice. I thank you for helping this girl grow up to be a healthy, happy, vivacious friend to the best friend and lover I could ever have. I will never have to worry about him going anywhere. Thank you for making us, "Lifers!"

Bottom line, I could never thank you enough for having the gift of gab, for finding and possessing the knowledge that you have and having the most wonderful talent to teach it and pass it on the way you do.

So thanks so much again!!!

Shelly Ross - Denver, Colorado

Dr Ellen,

God has used your insight to save me and my marriage. I was distraught, helpless, and hopeless when I first e-mailed you last year. I had suddenly lost my sweet Daddy, the only person who ever loved me unconditionally, and my husband had just asked me for a divorce after being diagnosed with liver disease! The despair I felt was debilitating and I wanted to curl up and die. To make matters worse, we had financial problems and two boys in college! My first reach for help was to God. I fell to my knees and begged for his mercy. (I think that he intended to humble me to get my attention.) My second reach was to you. I was shocked that you actually took the time to respond to my desperate plea for help. You immediately recognized that my husband was reacting to his illness and you advised me to keep things light but to acknowledge him and show appreciation. I also ordered your CD program and followed your advice. I am happy to report that my heart, soul, and marriage are on the mend. My husband is now recovering from chemo and expresses his gratitude of my dedication to him during the past year of treatment. I have discovered a wonderful peace from my renewed relationship with God and a great amount of wisdom from your "Light His Fire" program! Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Congratulations, you are making God very proud!

Ginga Ellis

Wetumpka, Al

Hi Dr. Ellen,

I bought the tapes and you gave me a letter to give to my wife. Well I wasn't ready to give her the letter but I did buy the program for her and I. When I got the program I had her program in my office and of course I dove right into the program. She saw the program but wanted nothing to do with it. I knew she had been talking with some of her friends that I bought some self help marriage program! I believe she thought I bought it off of some late night home shopping network informercial. I felt like she was just thinking what ever and she was checked out of the marriage. I just stayed the course and started to detach myself and focus on my kids, work and myself while going through the program. Well one day we went somewhere and I had my program playing in my truck. I went to turn it off but she said leave it on. Well that day started the change. One day I get in her car and I realized she had the program playing. I was blown away. This program has changed everything and including some events that helped her with closure. We had a marriage where intimacy was an issue and many other things and she was completely detached! I never imagined we would of had such a turn around. We have been together for 18 years and we are referring your program to everyone. It's not only what it has done for us but how we listen to our kids and communicate to them as well. I am glad a friend told me about you and your program and frankly I saw the stats on marriage counseling and knew that we needed a better way. Marriage counseling stats are horrible and many still end up in a divorce. Please feel free and post our testimonial! If someone on your website is reading this and you feel helpless or need some guidance do not turn this down!!! Don't hesitate in buying the program!! If it comes down to eating for 2 days or buying this program drink lot's of water and buy it. Thanks a million Dr. Ellen!!!

J. Oterol

Bellflower, California

Dear Dr Ellen,

I just wanted to give you some feedback about the results from your program. You may recall I was having a terrible time with my husband staying out after work and drinking. Our marriage was falling apart because I felt he didn't want to spend time with me anymore. I ordered your program but before it came, my husband and I went on our annual 3 week family holiday to the coast, where we had some very honest conversations. Basically he said he felt tied down and if this was what marriage was, he didn't want to be in one anymore.

So I came back home feeling very lost. My husband went on his annual trip to visit his parents while the kids returned to school. Then your program arrived. I watched the free DVD first and realized that all this time I had been blaming him for his bad behavior, yet I never looked at the reasons. I saw that I had made some huge mistakes in my own behavior and treatment of him. I then started listening to the CD's and all the while putting into action a few of your suggestions. When he returned from his trip, I could see he was thinking, "this woman has gone mad" but, by the third day he was responding!

The very first thing you said that hit home to me was, "You cannot change other people, only yourself." After hearing that I really thought, "Well what's the point then in me listening to this program since he is the one that needs to change, not me." Then, as I went more into the program and saw the results in my marriage, I understood. And I really needed to change a lot because I didn't realize how my head was filled with negative thoughts all the time. And I mean all the time!

Now, I am a happier person and my husband is happy to come home to me! What a difference Dr Ellen. We are communicating so well and have discussed in detail what was happening between us last year, and do you know it was MISCOMMUNICATION. I thought he didn't enjoy my company anymore. He was going through terrible pressure at work and he didn't tell me, because I didn't make myself available to just sit and listen. When he got home I was either hounding him for something he had or hadn't done, or I ignored him because I had all these "chores" that I felt he should be helping me with. Or if I did sit, I was offering him advice he didn't want! He was feeling excluded at work and excluded at home.

So I just wanted to let you know that our marriage is healing. I am only on CD #6 and I know he is getting more and more curious about them. He'll say "Did you listen to one of your tapes today? What did you learn?" He comes home early and we sit outside on the patio sharing about our day, relaxing with a glass of wine. His work problems have come to a head (he is in a problematic partnership) but for the first time in months he is enthusiastic about finding a solution. And all because I sit down and then shut up!

I am looking forward to the rest of the program and when I get to the end, I'm starting at the beginning again. In case I forgot something valuable!

Thanks so much for all that you have done. We both said last night that it's been 3 years since we were this happy! I'm so glad I found you. Thank you again.

Leanne Watt

Johannesburg, South Africa

Dear Dr.Ellen,

I think it is important for me to express my gratitude to you even though I am sure you get letters like these all the time. My husband and I decided to call it quits. It was all very civilized and cold and we we both happy to be done. It seemed like we had struggled with our marriage since the honeymoon ( I kid you not). Marriage just wasn't for us.

Then I ordered your program, kind of, as a last hope and so that I could tell myself that I had actually tried.

My husband has been working under a very strict deadline for the last 3 months so he has not actually listened to his program and yet, we are now happier than we have been since our wedding, 6 1/2 years ago. We are both madly in love with each other and I am really seeing again why I fell in love with him in the first place. I can hardly believe it but I feel it.

I can't thank you enough.

Sincerely,

Tanya Carwyn

Littleton, CO

I wrote to you June 26, 2006 because my husband had just told me he wanted a divorce...no counseling, no discussion. I was devastated and in searching for help/answers, I found your website. Let me tell you. I ordered your program, immediately implemented your ideas and I am amazed at the turnaround! He is back home, telling me he loves me (frequently) and the sex has never been better. WOW! He is very involved in slot car racing (which I have never really supported). He loves it and takes great pride in it. Ok, so I had an idea. I got a baseball cap with his number on the front and the name of his racing team on the back. Forget about sexy lingerie! He was blown away. Then he said, "Did you get that idea from those CD's you've been listening to?" I know we have a long road ahead but I thank you for showing us the on ramp

With thanks and love,

Joy Blackwood

Jasper, GA

I am writing to thank you for all your encouraging newsletters, stories and your Light her/his fire and tapes. They have all been a godsend and have helped me through a very difficult and painful phase in my life - my husband's affair (after 17 years of marriage). This happened almost a year and a half ago and we did a lot of soul searching and talking, using your programs to help us better understand each other and our relationship.

A year and a half later we can both say we are a happily married couple and have found more love and enjoyment with each other than the few years before our almost breakup. Thank you again for all your hard work and support in helping us save our marriages - you can add my marriage as a success in part to your guidance and encouragement.

Have a wonderful year and thank you again. God bless you and your family.

Lylla Frey

Cary, North Carolina

Dear Dr. Ellen:

I listened to your tapes many years ago. I was single at the time. You were so encouraging that I knew when I met the man I wanted to be my husband, I was going to use all your ideas. I want the world to know that everyone to know that I am married to the most wonderful, and thoughful man. I feel like I am still on my honeymoon. I am married for many years and your ideas have helped my husband be attentive, firtatious with me, and he makes me feel like a woman.

I have thought about you every day, but did not know how to contact you. Thank God for the Internet. I hope you get this email. I truly owe you my life. Without your help and cassettes I would not be married today. And I am not only married, but I am still on my honeymoon, and my husband still says, "I don't ever want to stop our honeymoon and I have never met a woman, and never will, who makes me feel more like a man than you."

Dr. Ellen, you are the best. We have three children, who are also so happy and I hope you read this email. I know you are very busy, but you have made such a difference in this world. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Lisa Perrone

Belleville, New Jersey

I spoke with you several weeks ago about my situation where my husband of 25 years told me that he loved me but wasn't in love with me and I was devastated. I started listening to the tapes and am now into tape three and already I'm seeing changes in my husband. He is much more attentive and has started thanking me for things that I do for him. I've done everything you said to do and it's made such a difference. He is reconnecting and this morning as he walked out the door for work, he kissed me and said he loved me. We are talking more and spending quality time together with tenderness. I don't know how I could possibly convey my gratitude and thanks to you, and I haven't even given him his tapes to listen to yet. I thought I'd wait and let him see the changes in me first and then when the time is right, I'll see if he'd listen to them too. I know now that we will save our marriage. I've also shared the tapes with my twin sister, who is in a very happy marriage, but hey, if I'd just known some of this stuff earlier, I may not have had to go through this now. Thanks again and I will be forever indebted to you.

Rita Whipple

Orlando, Florida

Dearest Dr. Ellen

In case you don't remember, my husband & I have been married for 35 years; have three grown children and 8 grandchildren. He's 58 & I am 53. We were suffering terribly in our marriage and my husband was threatening to move out.

I am compelled to write to you as I said I would. It has been about a month now since receipt of your program, Light His & Her Fire. I cannot begin to tell you how much this program has changed our lives. My husband, who was reluctant in the beginning, has come around full circle. Our lives have changed forever. We have a renewed commitment to our marriage and the bond that was almost broken, has been rekindled with a passion and connection that is far and above so much better that it ever was in our younger days. Yesterday, I just went with an urge and went shopping for some sexy apparel, a beautiful see through floral slinky short robe, pretty pink lace under wire bra and matching thong (oh my gosh!) panties. Ronnie (hubby) nearly went wild. We made beautiful passionate love as we have numerous times in the past month. It is soooo wonderful. I will continue to come up with romantic and creative ways to spice up our love life. He told me this morning, he was the luckiest man on the face of the earth, and he never wanted to be without me, that he loved me more than life itself, & looks forward to every morning he wakes with me by his side. He apologized for being so hard headed and said he has wasted so many years with his selfishness and stubborn ways, and that he would never take advantage or take me for granted again.

And I told him, ditto, it works both ways. I've learned so much from your program, and we are both so thankful that I was surfing the net when I found you. We will both be forever grateful to you and your program for turning this relationship that was slowly heading for the divorce court into the loving, strong and committed relationship that was there all along, it just needed some help to come full circle again. Thank you so much Dr. Ellen, I will let you know how things are going in the next few months. Until then, thanks so very much! I love you dearly.

Linda Walker

Weatherford, Texas

Dear Dr. Ellen,

My husband and I have been married for almost seven years. The last year has certainly been our most trying. We had gone to two different counselors with absolutely no change in our miserable relationship. I was ready to give up. I ran across your ad on the Internet and decided to order your programs for us both. He agreed we were on our way to divorce court if something didn't change and decided we should at least hear what you had to say. Neither of us were expecting much after seeing the other two counselors. It seemed to only be a place to go and complain about what the other was doing and how we were feeling, with no feedback on how to make things better. Anyway, we decided to give your program a try. WHAT A DIFFERENCE, WHAT A MIRACLE!! My husband has become the man I married all over again. I love him more every day and it just keeps getting better. He had become sarcastic, demeaning, critical, and selfish, definitely NOT the man I married. Now he has learned to be loving, complimentary, spontaneous, exciting, and thoughtful and has again become the man I fell in love with! As we began to listen to the programs on our long drives to and from work (traffic you know) I couldn't wait to hear what you had to say next. I was really shocked to find out he was always one CD ahead of me. Part of the problem was money issues and I was concerned about the cost of the program. What if I were just throwing more money out the window, like the cost of the counselors had been. Wouldn't I just be adding fuel to the fire for our next argument? I was desperate to try to save our marriage (my second, his third), and decided to do it anyway. AM I GLAD I DID!! Thank you sooooooo much for finding and giving me back my husband, the man I fell in love with! We now spend a lot of time trying to think of how we can show the other person just how much they mean to us. We actually try to out do the other, and what fun we're having doing it! I ordered the program on Dec. 27th of 2004, today is Jan. 19th, 2005. It has only taken 23 days to go from "almost divorce court" to "I can't wait to see him & tell him how much I love him today" I have already passed along the program to my children and their spouses to make sure they have healthy and happy relationships. Thank you Dr. Ellen , Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!

Karen Cosme

Moreno Valley, CA

Dear Dr. Ellen,

Just wanted to let you know how your cassette tapes changed my life around. In 1996, I became a widow at the age of 42. After listening to all three sets of your tapes, I placed an ad for singles on the Internet and I was inundated with men that wanted to date and marry me. The more I told them that I did not want to be in a serious relationship, the more they wanted to marry me.

I was astonished at the number of eligible men between the ages of 30 and 50. Your series, Light His Fire, guided me to know what to do and say in single life after having been happily married for almost 13 years and with an eleven year old son. Never did I dream I would be a single Mom because my husband and I were extremely happy.

An acquaintance of mine borrowed my tapes last year and left town with them. I just reordered the Light His Fire cassettes. When I am driving I just like listening to them.

Thank you for taking the chance, giving the seminars and helping millions of people. The world truly needs more people like you!

Warmly,

Renee Bowman

Miami, FL

Dear Dr. Ellen:

I bought "Light His Fire" 2 years ago and it completely saved my life.

I wasn't taught how to be truly loving in childhood. I don't think there are many children who are. I especially didn't know how to love unconditionally, because there were always conditions attached to my parents love. I found myself repeating these patterns. Not only did your program teach me how to show unconditional love but I also became much more conscious. I become more and more consciously aware everyday, of my thoughts, my feelings, and my actions.

Surprisingly, your down-to-earth and practical approach has propelled me on a most mystical and spiritual path! I believe you are one very evolved lady, whether you realize it or not. Since listening to your programs, I started to have an interest in all manner of spiritual material. From Chicken Soup For The Soul to The Celestine Prophesy and Deepak Chopra and Conversations With God. In all of these marvelous works (especially yours ) Love is the thread that connects them all. There is no power greater thaqn LOVE!

Words cannot express the gratitude that warms my heart, mists my eyes, and knots my throat. Thank you Ellen, for your great gift to humanity. What a wonderful life you've led so far - keep on. I love you for you and you are the one who taught me that.

Do you ever marvel at how many lives you've impacted in such a positive way? It is like a stone thrown into a pond. Even if you had only touched one life with your lessons, can you imagine how many people they would meet and affect as a result? And yet you have touched Millions! I can only hope to have that kind of impact with my music. And yet I know, because of the power of positive thoughts, that I will reach many people with my songs full of faith and hope and love. I have you to thank for this.

Love,

Barbara Homer

Marietta, GA

Dear Dr. Ellen,

Thank you so much for helping my husband and I to reconcile our marriage. We were on the verge of divorcing. Your tapes "Light His Fire" helped me to realize that I had not been treating my husband the way I should have.

The same day that I listened to your tapes, I called him over to visit. He immediately began to talk about divorce proceedings and, after he was finished, I apologized to him. I apologized for not being supportive, not making him feel valued, not making him feel like my king, for returning almost every gift that he has ever given me, for criticizing, etc.

Everything that you had said not to do, I was doing. I used to put most of the blame on him, but now I know that I played a very significant part in the separation. My husband could not believe what he was hearing from me, he started crying. We talked some more, decided to reconcile, and then had the most passionate love making that was very much due.

He's home and we're listening to your tapes. We plan to take a weekend road trip and will listen to your tapes on the way. I don't know how to thank you. I can only say that our lives have been changed. God sent your message to me at just the right time.

Thank you,

Rita Osbourne

Chicago, Ill

Hi Dr. Ellen!

My husband and I recently had made plans to go away for a relaxing weekend and to celebrate our 13th wedding anniversary. Our marriage and our relationship had improved so much since we have been listening to your tapes. I have told everyone I know about them. Anyway, he had to go out of town on business and was only given two says notice. It was disappointing, but we now have a wonderful getaway to look forward to after he returns.

The kicker, is that the night before he left, he brought me flowers and thanked me for being such a wonderful wife, for being understanding and for giving him the space to take care of his obligations. He has never done that before. And, he also did all the laundry before he left, this is a household task that he has been doing for years, but he usually just lets it pile up. And he gassed up the car for me, a full tank. He also took our 4 big water jugs to the store and had them refilled. So he was thoughtful and made sure that I was taken care of before he left. I could hardly believe it.

He has been gone for 6 days now and I miss him terribly. I have made sure I let him know how much I appreciated the flowers, the laundry, the gas, and the water. I feel that those tapes helped us have the close and loving relationship we always wanted. He is a changed man, or he has just let me see what the gifts he possesses cuz now he feels okay about sharing them with me.

I feel truly blessed that we were able to turn it around like this. He used to spend as much time as possible away from home. It's funny, that now we are so in love, we have to be apart for a while, and on our anniversary. We have been talking every day but what we both miss the most is being able to wrap our arms around each other. That will be a special treat when he returns.

Thank you again for opening our eyes and giving us direction. I have found a lot of people resisting these tapes, and I think they have no idea what they are missing out on.

Thanks, Ellen.

Pamela Groth

Petaluma, CA

Dear Dr. Ellen,

This letter is for all those individuals who feel hopeless in their situation because they feel their situation is so different from that of others. Hands down, your program is worth every penny! I have purchased a total of $3086.00 (have receipts) worth of books, programs, etc. from the Internet and otherwise! By far, way above and beyond, your program is what saved my marriage. Here is my story.

My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married for 2. We have experienced trouble from the start, as both of us come from pretty shady backgrounds when it comes to family, love, and relationships. We were both yellers, arguers, and generally very negative in all aspects of life. During the course of our "brief" relationship, we had cheated on each other, lied to each other, hurt each other verbally and physically, and so much more! Our lives was so miserable, our own children would ask why we are together! We had stopped making love or even just having sex. There was no communication (except to argue over the stupidest stuff), and we had grown so far apart, everyone knew we were heading for the end (including ourselves)! Our marriage came to an end (or so I thought) on 4/18/05 when my husband called me to lunch and told me that he could not take our misery anymore, that he no longer loved me and would be moving out, to get a DIVORCE! My world had ended. I cried for 2 weeks, feeling sorry for myself, angry at him for leaving and completely hopeless in my situation!

I had received so much advice in my weeks of self-pity - Forget about him; You'll find someone else; He's not worth it; Count your losses now and move on...Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah! On 4/30/05 I went on the Internet and did a Google search under, "Save My Marriage." Your site was the top of the listing. I clicked on your link and went through your site, word for word... and WAS VERY SKEPTICAL, so I bookmarked it and went on to the next site, and the next and the next. During that day, I purchased 13 books, 4 audio cassette programs, and even purchased online so-called "marriage" counseling ($60/hr) where they advised for me to move on because, "once they leave, it's beyond hope"!

I did not purchase your set at first, because your claims just seemed too good to be true! Your testimonials seemed fake and could not be real, as they sounded just like my situation! On 5/1/05 I discovered my husband was pursuing his ex girlfriend, from his past. I read his emails where they exchanged heated sexual content. He told her that he loved her and always felt like he did. What I read made me feel worse than I had ever felt in my entire life! That night, in my desperation to save my marriage, I went back online and continued my search, always heading back to your site. You see, I was now a "single" mother of three and the amount for your tapes just seemed too much for me to spend... Something told me to give it a shot. On 5/1/05, I purchased your CD's of "Light His Fire." And began the waiting game for them to arrive. I received my other packages before and during that time, read them and became completely discouraged. They all said the same thing. They all directed me to either leaving or waiting, waiting, waiting. I knew that I could not wait. I needed to take action or I would lose the love of my life!

FINALLY, your CD's and workbook arrived! I WAS STILL VERY SKEPTICAL! After spending 7 days reading the same junk (excuse my language) from the other packages, I was CERTAIN that your program was the same! On my way to work on 5/8/05 I listened to the first CD - and instantly was amazed at how hopeful and motivated your voice made me feel. I felt encouraged and hopeful in my situation that I originally thought was never going to work out! When I listened to your Home Work Assignment #1- I laughed out loud! I kid you not! I really laughed and thought to myself, "is this woman crazy, Geesh! I can't even get him on the phone, let alone tell him what you told me to say. This man, who was giving himself to another woman and who left me and our children." But in your CD you said, "Do it anyway!" So I did.

He called to talk to the children, like he did every night. Instead of handing the phone directly to them, as I always do when I see his number on the caller I.D., I took the phone and took a deep breath and said what you told me to say. There was a long silence on the phone and he blurted out, "Are you kidding me?" Following your advice, I stated, "No, I'm dead serious" and repeated what I had said. He just said, "Let me talk to the kids, I don't have time for this crap!" He talked to the kids, hung up and that was that. I was very discouraged, but somehow it motivated me to listen to the second CD. I ended up listening to the next three including the Communication" CD. The next morning (5/9/05), he called me and asked me if I wanted to have lunch. We had a beautiful lunch. He talked about his dreams, his job, his friends - all the things we have NEVER TALKED ABOUT. I never knew my husband had so many aspirations and so many good thoughts and qualities - he was truly amazing. After the lunch, I realized that I did not know him because I never truly listened to him. I had spent so much time focusing on his negatives, waiting for him to finish his words so that I could give him my two cents, that I missed all he was saying to me.

Over the next three weeks, I did all your homework assignments. I listened to the CDs over and over, so I really understood all your principles (I still listen when I commute to work)... and applied them all. Today, 5/31/05, we are closer than we've ever been. Last night, he told me, "Listen, I love you with all my heart and we are going to be okay, forever!" We made love (LOVE!) for the first time in 8 years...It was amazing! He got up this morning and made love again, kissed me goodbye and said, "I'll see you later my sleeping beauty... have a blessed day...I love you!" Oh my gosh!!! These are words I did not even know he had in his vocabulary, let alone being capable of saying them! Since starting your program there are so many things slowly starting to change:

- He's more active with the kids.

- He helps me around the house.

- He asks me if he can help me.

He is becoming everything that I thought HE COULD NEVER BE. My whole house has changed. The kids are happier, calmer and better behaved. I am happier, he is happier. I can NEVER begin to express what a wonderful program you have. What a true contribution to society you are giving, with your knowledge and remarkable ability to convey that knowledge! You've taught me that love has no strings and that the man I fell in love with was inside, waiting for a safe time to come out... that love is a feeling but that true love is an effort that must be nurtured everyday!

THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!

If your program can turn two cold-hearted, mean-spirited, lonely, damaged souls into lovers and friends, then it can do so much for everyone! BY THE WAY: I'm 32, overweight, I did not view myself as attractive, I have not really accomplished much in my life (or so I thought), and really had nothing to offer him but my love. (What most women think of as the exact opposite of a man's dream!) She's 28, fit, fun, has a great career in pharmaceutical researching, going to Medical School, she's extremely attractive and travels the world. (What most women think of as a man's dream!) But none of that mattered - looks, accomplishments, money, none of it!

If you ever doubt the impact you have on people and their lives, let me put it in perspective for you. You have affected me and my husband. We affect our children. They will affect their children, and so on... We affect our families, our friends, etc. They affect theirs. It goes on and on and on. God Bless You For All That You Do!

Signed Happily,

Maria Reyes-McDavis

Los Angeles, California