Dear Dr. Ellen,

3 Weeks ago my wife and I went to marriage counseling. After the 1st session she informed me she wanted a separation. I was devastated. We have 2 young boys and I was crushed by the thought of losing everything dear to my heart.

She was adamant in her decision and said there was absolutely nothing I could say or do to change her mind. She said she had tried and tried to get through to me but I never responded. I knew the only hope I had was to change my behavior. But I had no clue as to how to be a better husband and how to change. I grew up without a father around and a mother who was bitter about a divorce she did not want. I had no guidance, I was rudderless.

I searched on the internet for help and decided to buy your CDs (both sets). While waiting for the CDs to come I tried my best to be non- confrontational. They came last week and I listened to the first 4 before I asked my wife to listen to them. I was so afraid she would say no. But I thought what do I have to loose? I bought her a portable CD player and left the CDs on her nightstand. We were sleeping in separate rooms. On Sunday afternoon after a heated discussion as to when I should move out I pleaded with her to listen to the CDs. I felt they had helped me so much to better understand what a woman wants from a relationship and I told my wife this. I then went to work (night shift), barely able to keep it together.

I woke up this morning (monday) and my wife came in to my bedroom and said she listened to some of the CDs and thought it would be best if we did not separate for now. She went from being 100% certain that a separation was all she wanted to saying I could come back into our bedroom.

All I can say is you are an angel sent from God to answer my prayers. I have learned so much from listening to your CDs. It all makes so much sense. I never had anyone give me advise on how to date or how to be a good husband. Your words of advice and wisdom have helped me immensely.

I know I have a long road ahead of me to get my wife's heart back. I can tell from her body language that I have a lot of making up to do. But at least now I have a chance. I owe it all to you. I never wanted to give up on my wife. After listening to your CDs it made me realize I still loved her more than ever. She is my rock and I took her for granted. Her name is Ellen too. What else can I say but thank you. You are a very special person.

Ted Monderell

San Jose, California