Dear Dr. Ellen,
This letter is for all those individuals who feel hopeless in their
situation because they feel their situation is so different from that of
others. Hands down, your program is worth every penny! I have purchased
a total of $3086.00 (have receipts) worth of books, programs, etc. from
the Internet and otherwise! By far, way above and beyond, your program
is what saved my marriage. Here is my story.
My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married for 2. We have
experienced trouble from the start, as both of us come from pretty shady
backgrounds when it comes to family, love, and relationships. We were
both yellers, arguers, and generally very negative in all aspects of
life. During the course of our "brief" relationship, we had cheated on
each other, lied to each other, hurt each other verbally and physically,
and so much more! Our lives was so miserable, our own children would ask
why we are together! We had stopped making love or even just having sex.
There was no communication (except to argue over the stupidest stuff),
and we had grown so far apart, everyone knew we were heading for the end
(including ourselves)! Our marriage came to an end (or so I thought) on
4/18/05 when my husband called me to lunch and told me that he could not
take our misery anymore, that he no longer loved me and would be moving
out, to get a DIVORCE! My world had ended. I cried for 2 weeks, feeling
sorry for myself, angry at him for leaving and completely hopeless in my
situation!
I had received so much advice in my weeks of self-pity - Forget about
him; You'll find someone else; He's not worth it; Count your losses now
and move on...Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah! On 4/30/05 I went on the
Internet and did a Google search under, "Save My Marriage." Your site
was the top of the listing. I clicked on your link and went through your
site, word for word... and WAS VERY SKEPTICAL, so I bookmarked it and
went on to the next site, and the next and the next. During that day, I
purchased 13 books, 4 audio cassette programs, and even purchased online
so-called "marriage" counseling ($60/hr) where they advised for me to
move on because, "once they leave, it's beyond hope"!
I did not purchase your set at first, because your claims just seemed
too good to be true! Your testimonials seemed fake and could not be
real, as they sounded just like my situation! On 5/1/05 I discovered my
husband was pursuing his ex girlfriend, from his past. I read his emails
where they exchanged heated sexual content. He told her that he loved
her and always felt like he did. What I read made me feel worse than I
had ever felt in my entire life! That night, in my desperation to save
my marriage, I went back online and continued my search, always heading
back to your site. You see, I was now a "single" mother of three and the
amount for your tapes just seemed too much for me to spend... Something
told me to give it a shot. On 5/1/05, I purchased your CD's of "Light
His Fire." And began the waiting game for them to arrive. I received my
other packages before and during that time, read them and became
completely discouraged. They all said the same thing. They all directed
me to either leaving or waiting, waiting, waiting. I knew that I could
not wait. I needed to take action or I would lose the love of my life!
FINALLY, your CD's and workbook arrived! I WAS STILL VERY SKEPTICAL!
After spending 7 days reading the same junk (excuse my language) from
the other packages, I was CERTAIN that your program was the same! On my
way to work on 5/8/05 I listened to the first CD - and instantly was
amazed at how hopeful and motivated your voice made me feel. I felt
encouraged and hopeful in my situation that I originally thought was
never going to work out! When I listened to your Home Work Assignment
#1- I laughed out loud! I kid you not! I really laughed and thought to
myself, "is this woman crazy, Geesh! I can't even get him on the phone,
let alone tell him what you told me to say. This man, who was giving
himself to another woman and who left me and our children." But in your
CD you said, "Do it anyway!" So I did.
He called to talk to the children, like he did every night. Instead of
handing the phone directly to them, as I always do when I see his number
on the caller I.D., I took the phone and took a deep breath and said
what you told me to say. There was a long silence on the phone and he
blurted out, "Are you kidding me?" Following your advice, I stated, "No,
I'm dead serious" and repeated what I had said. He just said, "Let me
talk to the kids, I don't have time for this crap!" He talked to the
kids, hung up and that was that. I was very discouraged, but somehow it
motivated me to listen to the second CD. I ended up listening to the
next three including the Communication" CD. The next morning (5/9/05),
he called me and asked me if I wanted to have lunch. We had a beautiful
lunch. He talked about his dreams, his job, his friends - all the things
we have NEVER TALKED ABOUT. I never knew my husband had so many
aspirations and so many good thoughts and qualities - he was truly
amazing. After the lunch, I realized that I did not know him because I
never truly listened to him. I had spent so much time focusing on his
negatives, waiting for him to finish his words so that I could give him
my two cents, that I missed all he was saying to me.
Over the next three weeks, I did all your homework assignments. I
listened to the CDs over and over, so I really understood all your
principles (I still listen when I commute to work)... and applied them
all. Today, 5/31/05, we are closer than we've ever been. Last night, he
told me, "Listen, I love you with all my heart and we are going to be
okay, forever!" We made love (LOVE!) for the first time in 8 years...It
was amazing! He got up this morning and made love again, kissed me
goodbye and said, "I'll see you later my sleeping beauty... have a
blessed day...I love you!" Oh my gosh!!! These are words I did not even
know he had in his vocabulary, let alone being capable of saying them!
Since starting your program there are so many things slowly starting to
change:
- He's more active with the kids.
- He helps me around the house.
- He asks me if he can help me.
He is becoming everything that I thought HE COULD NEVER BE. My whole
house has changed. The kids are happier, calmer and better behaved. I am
happier, he is happier. I can NEVER begin to express what a wonderful
program you have. What a true contribution to society you are giving,
with your knowledge and remarkable ability to convey that knowledge!
You've taught me that love has no strings and that the man I fell in
love with was inside, waiting for a safe time to come out... that love
is a feeling but that true love is an effort that must be nurtured
everyday!
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!
If your program can turn two cold-hearted, mean-spirited, lonely,
damaged souls into lovers and friends, then it can do so much for
everyone! BY THE WAY: I'm 32, overweight, I did not view myself as
attractive, I have not really accomplished much in my life (or so I
thought), and really had nothing to offer him but my love. (What most
women think of as the exact opposite of a man's dream!) She's 28, fit,
fun, has a great career in pharmaceutical researching, going to Medical
School, she's extremely attractive and travels the world. (What most
women think of as a man's dream!) But none of that mattered - looks,
accomplishments, money, none of it!
If you ever doubt the impact you have on people and their lives, let me
put it in perspective for you. You have affected me and my husband. We
affect our children. They will affect their children, and so on... We
affect our families, our friends, etc. They affect theirs. It goes on
and on and on. God Bless You For All That You Do!
Signed Happily,
Maria Reyes-McDavis
Los Angeles, California
