Dear Dr. Ellen,

3 Weeks ago my wife and I went to marriage counseling. After the 1st session she informed me she wanted a separation. I was devastated. We have 2 young boys and I was crushed by the thought of losing everything dear to my heart.

She was adamant in her decision and said there was absolutely nothing I could say or do to change her mind. She said she had tried and tried to get through to me but I never responded. I knew the only hope I had was to change my behavior. But I had no clue as to how to be a better husband and how to change. I grew up without a father around and a mother who was bitter about a divorce she did not want. I had no guidance, I was rudderless.

I searched on the internet for help and decided to buy your CDs (both sets). While waiting for the CDs to come I tried my best to be non- confrontational. They came last week and I listened to the first 4 before I asked my wife to listen to them. I was so afraid she would say no. But I thought what do I have to loose? I bought her a portable CD player and left the CDs on her nightstand. We were sleeping in separate rooms. On Sunday afternoon after a heated discussion as to when I should move out I pleaded with her to listen to the CDs. I felt they had helped me so much to better understand what a woman wants from a relationship and I told my wife this. I then went to work (night shift), barely able to keep it together.

I woke up this morning (monday) and my wife came in to my bedroom and said she listened to some of the CDs and thought it would be best if we did not separate for now. She went from being 100% certain that a separation was all she wanted to saying I could come back into our bedroom.

All I can say is you are an angel sent from God to answer my prayers. I have learned so much from listening to your CDs. It all makes so much sense. I never had anyone give me advise on how to date or how to be a good husband. Your words of advice and wisdom have helped me immensely.

I know I have a long road ahead of me to get my wife's heart back. I can tell from her body language that I have a lot of making up to do. But at least now I have a chance. I owe it all to you. I never wanted to give up on my wife. After listening to your CDs it made me realize I still loved her more than ever. She is my rock and I took her for granted. Her name is Ellen too. What else can I say but thank you. You are a very special person.

Ted Monderell

San Jose, California

Dear Dr. Ellen,

I've been meaning to write you for sometime now. My husband reached out to you about ten months ago to find out if you were still teaching the "Light Her Fire" seminars. Our marriage was on the rocks and our family was falling apart. We had been going to marriage counseling for a while and that wasn't helping at all. In fact I dreaded going because we kept rehashing the past and it was so depressing.

I was telling my mom over the phone one day that things were not getting better. Long story short, my husband ordered the program for him and for me. We have listened to them over and over again and I have to say you changed our life!

I am so grateful to my husband that he was willing to try anything to save our marriage, but I can't tell you enough how thankful I am that you gave us the tools to move forward. We are on fire! Our relationship is better than ever, it's incredible. I am sending you the biggest hug in the world because you changed our life.

Thank you for making your program. You are an incredible woman.- God Bless.

Allison Baker

Burbank, CA.

Dear Dr. Ellen,

I wanted to let you know what has happened with my marriage. Yes! You should know the answer....you were a blessing to find! My story was so similar to many others and it is a long one. I will not bore you with it all but last Labor Day my husband said to me quite out of the blue, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you?." He said there wasn't another woman but he was considering a divorce. Luckily for our marriage, I didn't find out all the details (yes, there was another woman) in the beginning of our journey, but only slowly learned of his deceit and adultery. My husband has a problem with conflict and over the years he let so many things fester within him about our marriage and about me that when his brother decided to leave his wife (these brothers are twins) he coerced him to come along. They began team truck driving and his brother played a big part in bashing me and talking my husband into so many evil plans with these two other women that lived on the other side of the country. Of course my husband could have said no but he has followed his brother's lead ever since they were little....which was indeed been a problem for us.

At the time, he had said he didn't want to do any marriage counseling. I decided then that I loved him so much and that I needed to change. I blamed myself for so much of our problems but ultimately realized later that a lot of my actions were the result of his actions - they were the catalyst. But, the spiral downward was definitely there-we realize now how we BOTH played a major role in it.

I prayed a lot about the changes I needed to make because I knew I couldn't change him. And I prayed for Our Father to define my path. I knew I couldn't do this on my own - that I would need more help so I typed in "marriage counseling" on Google and there was your website...I ordered your "Light His Fire" the same day because I saw that I could possibly be helped by what you had to say and I wanted your help as quickly as possible. Everyday I took a walk after work with you.....you became my friend......and of course at the time I didn't think there was another woman...but you gave me hope and helped me realize what I needed to do. I should have listened to what you had to say a LONG time ago. Everyone in a relationship should!

I started talking positively to my husband and reinforced how I felt about him.....all the good things that I fell in love with. These were soft things he had not heard in a long time. My husband only came home three times in a four month period from Sept. to Dec. But through it all he noticed changes in me during our phone calls...and a change in my appearance from weight loss and just a general softening to my character. The final result was that after another setback over the holidays, he came home in January....asked for my forgiveness and we've been happily back together ever since. It's been amazingly good! Of course there have been a lot of issues we have had to deal with and it has been difficult knowing he has been with another woman.....but he had the strength to finally break from his brother and this other woman who were railroading him to a life that would have probably been not what they promised.

We know that a higher presence and the faith in our lives had so much to do with our reconciliation and the path chosen for us....but you, Dr. Ellen were my catalyst for moving forward and starting the change....you helped me with my direction and steps I needed to take. I now know that by fulfilling my husband's needs, mine will be fulfilled and already are in the most wonderful ways.

Since my husbands return, his brother's adulterous romance has ended (the woman saw how self-centered he was) and he did get a divorce. He is now living with the woman my husband was seeing across the country and it is a difficult situation because she continues to email him although my husband doesn't respond. He is ignoring the emails....has let me look at everything. And hopefully she will go away?. He admits he never loved her and says he was just mad at me and with his brother's insistence that he go where he goes (team drivers, you know) it was just too easy to escape. I see my husband becoming stronger and more independent because he is feeling more important.....thanks to me (and your guidance). He is able to stand up to his brother. I've gone on and on but wanted you to know how thankful I am that you made those CDs. I am presently listening to them again. And we are repairing our foundation to be stronger than ever. Thank you, Dr. Ellen. I wish you and yours the very best life has to offer.

Kindest regards,

Isabella Lorenz

Woodland Park, Colorado

Dear Dr. Ellen:

I think it is important for me to express my gratitude to you even though I am sure you get letters like these all the time. My husband and I decided to call it quits. It was all very civilized and cold and we we both happy to be done. It seemed like we had struggled with our marriage since the honeymoon ( I kid you not). Marriage just wasn't for us.

Then I ordered your program, kind of, as a last hope and so that I could tell myself that I had actually tried.

My husband has been working under a very strict deadline for the last 3 months so he has not actually listened to his program and yet, we are now happier than we have been since our wedding, 6 1/2 years ago. We are both madly in love with each other and I am really seeing again why I fell in love with him in the first place. I can hardly believe it but I feel it.

I can't thank you enough.

Sincerely,

Tanya Carwyn

Littleton, CO

Dear Dr. Ellen:

I listened to your programs many years ago. I was single at the time. You were so encouraging that I knew when I met the man I wanted to be my husband, I was going to use all your ideas. I want the world to know that everyone to know that I am married to the most wonderful and thoughtful man. I feel like I am still on my honeymoon. I am married for many years and your ideas have helped my husband be attentive, flirtatious with me, and he makes me feel like a woman.

I have thought about you every day, but did not know how to contact you. Thank God for the Internet. I hope you get this email. I truly owe you my life. Without your help and programs I would not be married today. And I am not only married, but I am still on my honeymoon, and my husband still says, "I don't ever want to stop our honeymoon and I have never met a woman, and never will, who makes me feel more like a man than you."

Dr. Ellen, you are the best. We have three children, who are also so happy and I hope you read this email. I know you are very busy, but you have made such a difference in this world. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Lisa Perrone

Belleville, New Jersey

Dear Dr. Ellen,

I spoke with you several weeks ago about my situation where my husband of 25 years told me that he loved me but wasn't in love with me and I was devastated. I started listening to the tapes and am now into lesson #3 three and already I'm seeing changes in my husband.

He is much more attentive and has started thanking me for things that I do for him. I've done everything you said to do and it's made such a difference. He is reconnecting and this morning as he walked out the door for work, he kissed me and said he loved me. We are talking more and spending quality time together with tenderness.

I don't know how I could possibly convey my gratitude and thanks to you, and I haven't even given him his tapes to listen to yet. I thought I'd wait and let him see the changes in me first and then when the time is right, I'll see if he'd listen to them too. I know now that we will save our marriage.

I've also shared the tapes with my twin sister, who is in a very happy marriage, but hey, if I'd just known some of this stuff earlier, I may not have had to go through this now. Thanks again and I will be forever indebted to you.

Rita W.

Orlando, Florida

People always ask me, "How long will your program take before I see some changes. So for this success story I thought I would show you all 3 emails from the same person so you could judge for yourself what a difference 2 weeks can make once you get the right information.

June 24th- I have given much thought to leaving my husband. He puts everything before me, his friends, family, and on top of that he has a bachelor pad that he refuses to move out of. We have been married just shy of two years. I am fed up with him. My parents are still married after 33 years. I thought I could do it also. I was looking up divorce information and I stumbled on to your site. I read the testimonials and one of the couples shared almost the same feeling as I am now sharing so I bought your program. I followed the first lesson although it was hard acting that way towards someone you feel should be begging you to let them get their act together. But not to jump ahead, I followed your instructions. (smile)

Since my change in behavior he has said he is moving out of the bachelor pad. I have had the CD's for almost two weeks now. I am crying as I am writing you this email. He is excited about the moving out and he told me he was being selfish and said he just wants me to be happy. I don't know if I will ever be in love with him again because all of the damage that he has done. The CD's are beautiful. I love them. When it comes to practicing them on him, I have to say a prayer to push me to do it. I am hoping that they will come natural and are not too late. I know something inside made me buy them.

July 9th- Miracle -Ok now bear with me Ellen- you are not going to believe this. My husband was treating me like a stranger. He was always very private, but he was growing distant. He barely wanted to have sex and the intimacy in itself had almost diminished to nothing. I was not getting any attention from him. So when he would stay out late, I would blow up. I did not like his friends they were always coming by announced and always wanting my husband to go somewhere. I moved to be another state to marry my husband. So I was angry because of most of the sacrificing was done on my behalf.

Saturday, one of my husband's friends came over at 2:30am and wanted him to go out. I was so livid, but I just did not say a word. My husband is usually very quiet and this is why I was so shocked. There were12 or so people at out house including my siblings, and my husband turned to his friend and said "If you can not respect my wife you are not welcome in my home. He apologized to me again on Monday.

Ellen, I went to the bathroom and cried. I could not believe it. Last night, I was in the bed and he came to bed and said are you sleeping and I said , "What's up?" He said, "I am stressed. I have a lot of things on my mind, can I talk to you?" I was floored. Since Monday we have been riding to work together. He kisses me before he gets out of the car and I give him a little spirit finger (just for us). I am so thankful.

August 5th- You will not believe how much love we have now. We are like honeymooners. It makes everyone sick since we were the ones who were always yelling at each other. Ellen! thank you. I have my relationship back. Everyone tells us in the last two weeks we are always late to everything. We are running late because we are so busy making out before we leave.

If I could say anything to other women it would be, "hang in there." You can not control someone else, but the CD's started making me feel like myself again. The homework may seem so far out of reach because of the state of your relationship is in at the moment. My advice is to do it anyway !

Love,

Fatima Johnson

Prattville, Alabama

Dear Dr. Ellen,

I wanted to wait before I wrote to you because I wanted to make sure that what happened to my marriage was no temporary fix. It's been a year since I ordered your programs and enough time has passed for me to feel confident that my impending divorce is a thing of the past. This letter is for you but it is my hope that it will also inspire every man out there who doesn't know where to turn to for help. You of course already know how effective your teachings are but someone coming to you for the first time doesn't know that they couldn't be in more capable hands.

When I first did a search to save my marriage, I knew that I needed a miracle to change my wife's mind. At first it was a harmless friendship with a coworker. She would share their conversations with me and I felt no threat. But as months went by, she talked less and less about him and became more distant to me. Then one day as a result of pushing her for an answer as to her growing distance, she finally admitted that, although she loved me and would we would always be connected because of the kids, she was no longer "in love" with me and could never be again. I only heard bits and pieces after the part where she said that "she didn't love me anymore and had fallen in love with her coworker. She never intended to hurt me. It just happened. It's no one's fault. We can stay friends for the sake of the kids" and other canned responses that she must have felt would soften the blow.

I was in denial at first but then I realized the affect this would have on our two children who were 12 and 9 at the time. I couldn't just sit there and let this happen. I immediately spent every spare moment searching for anything that would reverse the course of our lives. I am guilty of getting every download that has ever been offered on the Internet. Nothing helped and our marriage seemed doomed.

Then I found you. After spending hours on your site and reading and listening to everything you had available I realized that maybe, just maybe, there would be a way to save our marriage. I wrote to you and you actually wrote back. The one thing I remember you saying was that without my wife listening to what you had to say, there would be no changes in her desire to get a divorce. But how could I get her to listen when she was in love with another man and had made her mind up to leave. I bought the programs on blind faith and gave my wife the letter you suggested. Her reaction to be honest was, "Take this program and shove it where the sun don't shine." Does that give you a clue to what I had to work with? I put her program away and began listening to mine. As I listened I understood why my wife was no longer in love with me. I knew I couldn't change the past, but I sure could control the future. I followed your instructions to the T. I got absolutely no response and then 3 months later, my wife said that she was having 2nd thoughts about getting the divorce. The kids hated the new man in her life and he was having problems with his own teenage children (who couldn't stand my kids). I guess the life with me wasn't looking so bad after all. She agreed to listen to your program and the rest, as they say, is history!

You are so right when you say that pain is what causes us to grow. I would not be the husband and father I am today if it weren't for your wisdom and remarkable ability to deliver the information we need in such an easy and entertaining way. There were times I sat in the parking lot and came late to the office because I didn't want to stop listening.

I can never thank you enough for showing me what I needed to do to get my wife back and keep our family in tact. I hope you never stop doing what you do because I know there are many clueless men like me who need you.

Your fan forever,

Rob Wolf

Lawrence, New York

Dear Dr. Ellen,

I am certain this is just one of many letters you receive every day, however I felt compelled to write to you. In fact this letter is long over due.

A few years ago I ordered your tape series from an infomercial at 2:30 in the morning. (Is that cliche or what?) Yet I assure you this story is true. I knew my marriage was crumbling. My husband was shutting down and refused to talk to me about his pain. Though he had not yet told me he wanted a divorce, I knew it was coming and ordered these tapes because, frankly, I liked what you said. I had 15 years into this marriage and I wasn't about to give up yet. I felt I had nothing to lose and at the very least they would help me get my own life in order. I had them sent to my mother's home and had already started listening to them as I walked every day. when he finally confessed that he did want a divorce. (Not even a trial separation) His plan was to stay in the home for a few months until he could get everything in order. Though I made it very clear that this not at all what I wanted, we agreed to live amicably and not tell our 5 year old until it was absolutely necessary. The bottom line is, I listened and listened and listened again to your tapes everyday, as I walked. If I was frustrated, I listened, angry I'd pull out a tape, crying at my wits end, I listened again. Eventually everything you said made sense. I put myself pity aside and started to look at my own behavior, making small improvements every day. I kept a positive affirmation journal. I prayed. And I followed all your advice I could, with the exception of the romantic parts. (We weren't there yet) Most of all you gave me the confidence to believe in my own strength and power: that I would not be a victim. To make a long story short...it worked.

Mid way through this I told my husband what I was doing, though he still said he wanted the divorce I could slowly see him beginning to open up. He would ask me out to breakfast, wait for me for dinner. He would come home earlier everyday. One day he even told me how hard I was making this...I told him "that's my job!"

Most importantly I started to believe...believe that it was going to work. The compliments I started to give him, the attitude changes I made, the sweetness that he fell in love with, made him fall in love with me all over again. Within four months, in fact the night before Halloween, he told me he was staying forever. He said that he loved me and that he wasn't going anywhere. (I still cry when I think of that day). I can tell you that these tapes saved a marriage, my sanity and us from having to tell a five year old that the Daddy she adored was leaving. We are eternally grateful!!!!! I can't tell you there haven't been bumps along the way, but I can tell you that when they happen , I go back to the basics, you tapes and books and put my relationship back on track. One year after this episode we would find out our daughter was molested. There were police interviews, court appearances and excruciating stress during that time. We feel that God was talking to us when we put this marriage back on track, that somehow the tools we received from listening to you kept my husband Ed and I focused on our daughter, together as a strong unified couple, at such a crucial time. If this had occurred before we ever listened to your tapes we would surely not have been able to stand strong and united, as we were during that time. Our daughter, thankfully, is doing great. You were a Godsend.

We eventually took advantage of the sex and romantic advice and things are better than when we were dating. I have since passed these tapes around to all of my friends, (sorry) and I know they have saved at least 1 other marriage and helped two or three other relationships.

Thank you again,

Pamela Deputy

Bensalem, PA

Dear Dr. Ellen,

I was looking for your phone number and couldn't find it and decided to try the web. I am so excited you are here. I have a testimony that I wanted you to know about and didn't know where else to put it. I didn't see a section for testimonials, but I sure would be willing to be one for your product.

My name is Denise Kennedy and I have been married 8 years thanks to your tape series. We were married on Oct. 16, 1991 and by 1994 we were ready to get a divorce. We had been separated for a year when I was watching TV late one night. I was living in Seattle and my husband Ken was living in our home in California with another women, and he had asked me for a divorce and had asked the other woman to marry him.

I am a Christian and I felt the Lord telling me to do NOTHING toward a divorce, so I didn't. While I was flipping through the channels, I heard a woman say, "If you are planning to get a divorce, please listen to this program," so I did. As I watched the program I heard the Lord say to me, order these tapes and send them to Ken.

Well, I was sure that it could not be GOD. I mean, he was living with another woman, had asked her to marry him, and I was supposed to spend my money on tapes for him, not a chance. Well, as I kept listening to the program, I heard God louder and louder, ORDER THE TAPES AND SEND THEM TO KEN. Well, I wrestled with God for 2 hours. It's not fair, why should I, he'll just use them for THEIR relationship....

I did order them and sent the men's program to him. I didn't hear from him for 4 months. Then one day, I called to tell him I was moving to Texas. I had not heard anything about a divorce. We had dinner in Jan. of 1996 and reconciled in Feb. the next month. He told me that your tapes were the turning point for him realizing that maybe I was not all the problem and that he became open minded enough to look at himself realistically.

I have referred dozens of friends to your tapes and even lent mine out to a friend who called to say they were getting a divorce. I said, "not until you listen to these tapes." That was two months ago and they are still together. For over 3 years now, I have wanted to send you a THANK YOU and wanted to offer my testimony to anyone who may need some hope that things can change. Belief in God and being will to invest in your tapes are the reason we are still married.

I know personally that there are several marriages that are together because of you and your programs.

Thanks again. I would recommend them to EVERY couple I know.

Denise Kennedy

Yucaipa, CA