Dear Dr. Ellen,
I wanted to wait before I wrote to you because I wanted to make sure
that what happened to my marriage was no temporary fix. It's been a year
since I ordered your programs and enough time has passed for me to feel
confident that my impending divorce is a thing of the past. This letter
is for you but it is my hope that it will also inspire every man out
there who doesn't know where to turn to for help. You of course already
know how effective your teachings are but someone coming to you for the
first time doesn't know that they couldn't be in more capable hands.
When I first did a search to save my marriage, I knew that I needed a
miracle to change my wife's mind. At first it was a harmless friendship
with a coworker. She would share their conversations with me and I felt
no threat. But as months went by, she talked less and less about him and
became more distant to me. Then one day as a result of pushing her for
an answer as to her growing distance, she finally admitted that,
although she loved me and would we would always be connected because of
the kids, she was no longer "in love" with me and could never be again.
I only heard bits and pieces after the part where she said that "she
didn't love me anymore and had fallen in love with her coworker. She
never intended to hurt me. It just happened. It's no one's fault. We can
stay friends for the sake of the kids" and other canned responses that
she must have felt would soften the blow.
I was in denial at first but then I realized the affect this would have
on our two children who were 12 and 9 at the time. I couldn't just sit
there and let this happen. I immediately spent every spare moment
searching for anything that would reverse the course of our lives. I am
guilty of getting every download that has ever been offered on the
Internet. Nothing helped and our marriage seemed doomed.
Then I found you. After spending hours on your site and reading and
listening to everything you had available I realized that maybe, just
maybe, there would be a way to save our marriage. I wrote to you and you
actually wrote back. The one thing I remember you saying was that
without my wife listening to what you had to say, there would be no
changes in her desire to get a divorce. But how could I get her to
listen when she was in love with another man and had made her mind up to
leave. I bought the programs on blind faith and gave my wife the letter
you suggested. Her reaction to be honest was, "Take this program and
shove it where the sun don't shine." Does that give you a clue to what I
had to work with? I put her program away and began listening to mine. As
I listened I understood why my wife was no longer in love with me. I
knew I couldn't change the past, but I sure could control the future. I
followed your instructions to the T. I got absolutely no response and
then 3 months later, my wife said that she was having 2nd thoughts about
getting the divorce. The kids hated the new man in her life and he was
having problems with his own teenage children (who couldn't stand my
kids). I guess the life with me wasn't looking so bad after all. She
agreed to listen to your program and the rest, as they say, is history!
You are so right when you say that pain is what causes us to grow. I
would not be the husband and father I am today if it weren't for your
wisdom and remarkable ability to deliver the information we need in such
an easy and entertaining way. There were times I sat in the parking lot
and came late to the office because I didn't want to stop listening.
I can never thank you enough for showing me what I needed to do to get
my wife back and keep our family in tact. I hope you never stop doing
what you do because I know there are many clueless men like me who need
you.
Your fan forever,
Rob Wolf
Lawrence, New York
