Dear Dr. Ellen: My husband and I are both struggling to make ends meet. We live from paycheck to paycheck. I worry a great deal that my kids don't have a lot of toys and nice clothes. Will they grow up resenting us for having them and then not being able to give them things that other kids have? - Jan

Dear Jan: The best gift you ever give your children is belief in themselves. That is done by giving lots of praise and surrounding them with love, not by giving them toys and nice clothes. The happiest, most well adjusted children come from a home where mom and dad love each other. Remember this always - "A shack can be a mansion when love lives there and a palace can be a prison without love." Getting books from the library and reading to them, taking long walks and pointing out the beauty in nature, spending time talking to them, going on picnics, smiles, hugs and kisses will be what your children will remember and feel blessed for having you as parents. - Dr. Ellen.