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An Alternative to Marriage Counseling will Work for You
Even though you did a search for marriage counseling, I'm going to try to convince you that no matter how far gone or hopeless you think your marriage is, marriage counseling is not the answer. "Why?" In marriage counseling, both of you will be discussing all the hurt and pain that has brought you to this point. That isn't going to make you walk out of a marriage counselor's office feeling closer and more connected. If you were in bad shape before going to marriage counseling, wait until you see how cold and distant you'll feel after marriage counseling.
The reason my programs work and are so much more effective than marriage counseling is that you don't rehash old wounds. You don't talk at all. You just listen. By listening to what I have to say, the stories I tell, and the examples I give from my own life, you'll know exactly what to say and do to feel closer and more connected. Most couples, who finally find me and have had years of marriage counseling with no results say, "All you do, week after week is rehash all the past wounds, where your program gives you a fresh start."
The truth is that you too could use a fresh start! If you don't learn how to fulfill each other's needs, then all you will have is continued disappointment and heartache.
When I saw you on Oprah, my husband and I had been in marriage counseling for 8 months. Two years before, our house went into foreclosure and we were forced into bankruptcy. I blamed my husband for his poor decisions and kept punishing him for doing this to me and the kids. The marriage counselor focused on my hostility and his inadequacies. It got us nowhere. Your program helped me focus on the exact opposite; all his good qualities and my love for him. What marriage counseling failed to do in 8 months, your program did in just a few days! Our home is now "rich" with love.
Marriage Counseling Can be Intimidating
When you attend traditional marriage counseling, it is always more difficult for one spouse than it is for the other. While one spouse finds it easy to share their whole life with a stranger, the other feels that their personal life is private. The spouse who is able to express themselves more easily is the one who has the upper hand in marriage counseling. The shy, more private person, is at a disadvantage because they are not comfortable verbalizing their feelings. With my programs, you won't be doing any talking. You will both be listening to your own, individual programs in the privacy of your home or car. Most people find it easy and convenient to listen for 15 minutes while going to and from work. When you are done, you will know why your mate fell in love with you, what went wrong, and exactly what to do and say to make it right and bring back the feelings you had when you first fell in love.
"I knew my marriage was on its last leg. My husband was cold and indifferent to me. We went to marriage counseling and he just sat there counting the minutes till it was over. Since he refused to open up to the marriage counselor, I eventually saw no point to going anymore. Before our last session, the marriage counselor gave us your programs and asked us both to listen to them. My husband was so relieved that he didn't have to go to marriage counseling anymore that he agreed to listen. I saw a change in him almost immediately and every day we got closer and closer. We just got back from Hawaii which was a second Honeymoon for us. I sent the counselor a 'Thank You' note for giving us your programs, but it is you that deserves our gratitude. Although you don't know us, we feel so connected to you and your programs have changed our lives." Penny H. - Hartford, CT
A Marriage Counseling Alternative That Works
Everyday, thousands of men and women hear, "I can't do this anymore!" As painful as those words are, they are the truth. How many times and how many ways does someone have to tell you, "What we are doing isn't working!" So, instead of attending Marriage Counseling, where you will be discussing the past, why not find an alternative to Marriage Counseling that is faster and more effective and moves you forward instead of backwards in time.
It's been my experience over the last 23 years that if your mate was in love with you in the beginning, they can feel like that again, even if you have been told by friends, family and a marriage counselor that there is no hope.
"My wife told me that she didn't love me anymore and was not sure she ever loved me and wanted a divorce. She finally agreed to go for marriage counseling and we went to a highly recommended marriage counselor in our area. He said that he wouldn't waste our time and would let us know in 3 sessions whether our marriage had a chance. After our 3rd session, this marriage counselor told us, "Once the chemistry is gone, you cannot ever get it back. My recommendation is for you the two to get a legal separation that will, in all honesty, lead to divorce." He told me that I had to accept that our marriage was over and we should live separate lives. I have no doubt that had we listened to this counselor, we would be divorced by now. Instead, we found you and realized that we had never stopped loving each other. There was just a lot of "stuff" that had gotten in the way. Your positive approach makes so much sense and it not only affected us as a couple but our children as well." Harvey W - Long Beach, N.Y.
If you would like to improve your marriage without marriage counseling, look no further because you have come to the right place. You will see how passionate I am about saving marriages. I am confident that yours will be the next success story I receive.
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