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Relationship Counseling: Why am I still single?
Dear Dr. Ellen: One would think that I have everything, a good job, a supportive and loving family, a nice apartment, and even a nice car. I am healthy and people say that I am a pretty girl. But, I am still alone. I feel so strong in my "business" life and so "weak" in my personal life and I don't know what to do about this. I tried to figure out what I was doing well in my career to try to apply it in my private life but nothing seems to work. What do you think I should do? - Sharon
Dear Sharon: Advertise for what you want. It's the fastest, easiest and least expensive way I know to meet eligible men who will be eager to meet you. Put a personal ad in the newspaper or on-line. Use exactly what you wrote to me as your ad. "One could say that I have everything, a good job, a supportive and loving family, a nice apartment, and even a nice car. I am healthy and people say that I am a pretty girl. I'm looking for..." Then describe exactly the kind of man you are looking for. When you do this it is so exciting when a person responses to the ad and says, "I'm the person you are looking for! I have every trait that you advertised for."
Many people have gotten married as a result of doing this. Let's say you were looking for a job. Instead of answering someone else's ad, you put together an ad explaining your qualifications and the type of job you wanted. Do you know how exciting it would be if you received lots of responses from different employers all saying they wanted you? That is what is going to happen with your personal life! I believe that you have to be willing to risk your time, effort and energy. Ask anyone you know, "How did you meet your mate?"
You'll find that no one says, that they were sitting at home, when all of a sudden their
perfect mate fell out of the sky and landed in their lap.
In every case there was action and then there was an attraction. Can you imagine how much fun it would be to come home from work every day to find multiple responses from people wanting to get to know you?
Here is another good way to meet your perfect mate. The key words to remember are, "DO GOOD, GET GOOD." What I mean by that is if you want to meet a GOOD mate, DO GOOD things like:
A) VOLUNTEER TO HELP WITH A CHARITY EVENT - Join an organization that raises money for good causes, like cancer, diabetes, AIDS, multiple sclerosis, etc.
B) VOLUNTEER AT YOUR PLACE OF WORSHIP - Teach Sunday School. Many places have fellowship hours and need volunteers to help with coffee and snacks.
C) ENROLL IN RELIGIOUS STUDY GROUP OR A SPIRITUAL CLASS - No matter what your religious beliefs are, studying and discussing spiritual issues offer you an opportunity to relate to others on a deeper level than you otherwise might in your daily life.
If you want to meet a GOOD mate - GET GOOD at something. Improving yourself in any way, gives you the opportunity to meet someone who is trying to do the same. For example:
1) DANCE LESSONS - It could be ballroom, country western, square dancing, swing, or whatever. Not only can you meet your mate that way but if you are at a wedding or party or reunion and someone asks you to dance, you can say, "I'd love to" and mean it.
2) TAKE AN ADULT EDUCATION CLASS - Whether you are interested in photography, golf, antique collecting, yoga or scuba diving, there are classes available. What better way to meet someone with a common bond than in a class targeted specifically to your interest.
3) JOIN A HEALTH CLUB - Aerobics classes, exercise equipment, weight rooms, swimming pools and racquetball courts are some of the amenities you'll find available, depending on what health club you join. This is a wonderful way to meet health conscious people as you improve your own health as well.
Just go for it! Good luck in your action-packed new life! - Dr. Ellen.
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